This is one of the best blog posts I've read on how to support a friend going through infertility.
How to Help a Friend Facing Infertility. "Let your friend know you are there, and open the door for discussion without pressure or pity."
This is a collection of essays written by women and one man about their personal stories of infertility and pregnancy loss. Some of the stories end with a baby, and others do not. These stories may help the reader feel less alone.
Finding support online when you're facing fertility treatments can be helpful...or not. Here's an article about the benefits of these forums and what to look out for.
The pros and cons of online fertility forums. "While most users of an online fertility forum are genuine, and the experiences are positive and supportive, it makes sense to be careful, says Ms Bold at the University of Worcester."
Men are affected by infertility as well. It's not talked about very much, but here's one man's story:
The Silent Shame of Male Infertility. "Men are largely absent from public conversation around infertility, and even those who have looked for support hesitate to identify as someone struggling with male infertility."
IVFML is a podcast following Anna Almendrala and Simon Ganz as they try to have a baby. They are frank and honest, letting the listener eavesdrop on their voice memos even in the darkest of moments throughout their infertility journey.
Episode 3: Cash Money focuses specifically on the finances involved in using assisted reproductive technologies.
Recommended Reading- Navigating the Land of IF: Understanding Infertility and Exploring Your Options by Melissa Ford
This book is written as a guidebook through the land of infertility. Ford spells out what you need to know, including descriptions of common fertility tests, procedures, and medications. She also discusses ways for you (and your partner) to talk about what your priorities and values are in this process. Later chapters touch on adoption, the decision to live child-free, and parenting after infertility.
This memoir is a very intimate look at Scully’s experience with infertility. She writes honestly about her jealousy, disappointment, and anger throughout the process. She also writes about how the process of trying to conceive affected her relationship with her husband. Scully includes things that helped along the way, like adopting a dog and working with a mental health professional in order to sort out her feelings.
Just a heads up: this memoir does not have a happy ending. Scully and her husband go through two rounds of IVF with no success. (Trigger warning: early pregnancy loss.)
This book provides normalization of the infertility journey, and the mental and physical toll that it can take on both partners. This book is very short and concise, and I would recommend it for friends and family of folks going through infertility treatments so that they can understand the struggle and know how they might offer appropriate support and care.
Linking to Episode #2 of Laura Tremaine’s 10 Things To Tell You podcast titled: Are You Lonely?
Are you lonely? What a great question to ask yourself, your partner, or your friends.
Admitting and identifying a problem is a first step to finding a solution. Being honest about if you’re feeling lonely and disconnected from others may be the beginning of finding new or deeper connections.
Is there someone that you can ask, “Are you lonely?”
If someone asked you, “Are you lonely?” how would you respond?
Hi there, how's it going? It's the last Monthly Round-Up of 2018, and possibly my last Monthly Round-Up for awhile. This year, it's been fun to share articles and podcasts that have caught my eye/ear, but I'm thinking of changing things up in 2019 in a still-to-be-determined way. We are all changing, and what works for us in one season of life doesn't always work in the next. So stay tuned, and we'll see how this blog develops during 2019!
Today I'm sharing:
Article: What's All This About Journaling?
"Journaling may sound hokey to some. But it can be one of the most useful and cost-effective tools we have to forge a better, more emotionally and mentally healthy life."
Podcast: Online Dating: Can Science Find You Love?
"Paul's work has found that there's something about falling in love that the science just hasn’t been able to capture. For now, he says relationships are more like earthquakes than the weather, and that means we can’t really predict when they’re going to happen."
Article: What I Learned About Life At My 30th College Reunion
"Nearly all the alumni said they were embarrassed by their younger selves, particularly by how judgmental they used to be."
I’m Elaine Gee-Wong and I'm a therapist with a private practice in Santa Clara, CA.
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