Happy March! This is a round-up of what has caught my eye (and ear) this past month.
In Nir Eyal’s article, Happiness Hack: This One Ritual Made Me Much Happier, he writes about how having good friends is crucial for your mental and physical health. Intentionally maintaining friendships keeps them alive. If friendships aren’t maintained, Eyal writes: “This is how friendships die- they starve to death.” His solution? A “kibbutz” style friendship.
Were you ever taught about how to make a friend? How do we learn this? The Lazy Genius Episode #13: The Lazy Genius Makes a Friend is a very short introduction on the basics of making a friend.
In Better Than Before, Gretchen Rubin writes about how we can develop healthy habits and eliminate the negative habits. She writes about the importance of knowing yourself and how you work, and how knowing this will help make or break these habits. She combines research and personal stories into a very readable, practical, and motivating book.
Suggestions about spending more money on mental health services, education, prevention, and treatment are thrown around by politicians, especially after mass shooting tragedies. But where will the money come from? According to this Sacramento Bee article, California already has a special tax and funds dedicated for this very purpose, but the money remains unspent.
If you'd like to learn more about grief and the grieving process, here's a book to check out.
Grief Demystified by Carolyn Lloyd
“…grief is the cost of loving someone: the greater the love, the greater the loss, the greater the impact” (p. 26).
What It’s About:
This is a short (111 pages) and concise handbook of sorts on what grief is and how it works. The title is really accurate – Lloyd takes the subject of grief, one that we tend to avoid talking about in our culture, and distills it down to the basics in a very readable and accessible format. A great grief primer, one that could be read in one sitting.
Lloyd gives a brief history of academic grief theories, offers suggestions about how to talk with people who are bereaved, describes various grieving styles, and talks about how to offer support.
Grief will be different for each person. That said, having a general understanding of how grief works would benefit anyone who will ever experience grief or meet anyone who is grieving.
This article in The Mercury News gives us a glimpse into the dating world in the Silicon Valley. Singles in the area are finding that online dating apps don't necessarily offer a quick solution for finding love. The Silicon Valley work culture, combined with the ratio of men to women here provide other challenges to meeting potential significant others.
Do you relate to this article? Are you feeling encouraged about your dating life? Discouraged? What are the drawbacks to online dating apps? Advantages?
I’m Elaine Gee-Wong and I'm a therapist with a private practice in Santa Clara, CA.
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