We're starting Week Nine of the Shelter-in-Place order here in Santa Clara County. I hope you are staying well and taking very good care of yourself.
I wanted to check-in:
How are you holding up?
What are you finding easier? What is harder?
Who/what do you miss? Who/what do you NOT miss?
What grief are you holding?
What is NOT helping you right now?
What is saving you right now?
PS: If you're feeling anxious, depressed, lonely, or just need someone to talk to you can text HOME to 741741 and you'll be connected to a Crisis Counselor.
Linking to Episode #45 of Laura Tremaine’s 10 Things To Tell You podcast titled: Questions for the End of the Year.
It’s that time of year again. Holiday parties, gift-giving….and perhaps some time to reflect on 2019. Laura Tremaine provides ten questions to help you do just that.
These questions would make great journal prompts or conversation starters. Or maybe answer all ten questions for yourself and then share with a friend who has done the same.
Here’s to more reflection and connection in 2020!
Hi there, how's it going? It's the last Monthly Round-Up of 2018, and possibly my last Monthly Round-Up for awhile. This year, it's been fun to share articles and podcasts that have caught my eye/ear, but I'm thinking of changing things up in 2019 in a still-to-be-determined way. We are all changing, and what works for us in one season of life doesn't always work in the next. So stay tuned, and we'll see how this blog develops during 2019!
Today I'm sharing:
Article: What's All This About Journaling?
"Journaling may sound hokey to some. But it can be one of the most useful and cost-effective tools we have to forge a better, more emotionally and mentally healthy life."
Podcast: Online Dating: Can Science Find You Love?
"Paul's work has found that there's something about falling in love that the science just hasn’t been able to capture. For now, he says relationships are more like earthquakes than the weather, and that means we can’t really predict when they’re going to happen."
Article: What I Learned About Life At My 30th College Reunion
"Nearly all the alumni said they were embarrassed by their younger selves, particularly by how judgmental they used to be."
This holiday season can be a blur of activities and busyness with not so much time for reflection (unless we intentionally make room for some). And then the New Year is suddenly upon us.
To help you add a bit of reflection to this season, I've created a worksheet to help you slow down and take inventory of what happened this last year. I've also included some questions to help you get in touch with what you're wanting/hoping/dreaming about for 2019. I invite you to print it out and set aside some time to walk through it.
You can click here to download the worksheet.
Taking a look at this infographic can help us assess how we're doing in terms of caring for our mental health. Which of these are you doing well with? Which ones could use some more attention?
How was August for you? Are you ready to head into the fall?
I've read some great articles this month. Here they are:
This Woman Quit Dating Apps and Decided to Meet Men IRL, and It Changed Everything
"The more comfortable I became talking to everyone, the more confidence I gained talking to men. I began living openly, boldly, and unapologetically."
How To Make Friends, According to Science
"A recent study out of the University of Kansas found that it takes about 50 hours of socializing to go from acquaintance to casual friend, an additional 40 hours to become a “real” friend, and a total of 200 hours to become a close friend."
The New, Supremely Satisfying Way I End My Day.
"What helps me to keep on keepin' on is to truly give myself credit for the things I get done each day—both personally and professionally. And to that end, I've developed an auspicious habit: I write a to-do list in reverse at the end of the day."
Welcome to spring! Here are some resources that caught my eye this month. All are related to knowing yourself better.
In this post:
Ever think about journaling as a way to be in touch with what you're learning, how you're growing, and what you're struggling with? In this article by Michael Hyatt, he provides a simple journal template with eight questions that can make the journaling process easier.
In podcast episode #45, the Lazy Genius talks all about setting goals based on the person that you want to become. It's a short episode (13 minutes) but it's packed with stuff to think about.
In her book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything, Anne Bogel gives us an overview of eight different personality frameworks. In a conversational, memoir-ish way, she explains how each of the frameworks help us know ourselves better. If you'd like to dip your toe into personality types, this is an easy way to figure out where you might want to start.
Anger is an indicator that something doesn't feel right. It isn't fun to feel angry, but sometimes it's easier to feel anger than to acknowledge (and actually feel) all of the vulnerable feelings that sit underneath the anger. Vulnerable feelings like grief, shame, and disappointment can feel uncomfortable and painful. We can sometimes use anger to protect ourselves from feeling this vulnerability and pain.
Are you willing to take a look at what feelings sit underneath your Anger Iceberg?
I’m Elaine Gee-Wong and I'm a therapist with a private practice in Santa Clara, CA.
Any information or advice on this website is for informational purposes only, and should not take the place of information or care provided to you by your physicians, medical, or mental health care professionals.