Linking to this article titled "Do You Have 'Zoom Fatigue' or Is It Existentially Crushing to Pretend Life Is Normal as the World Burns?"
A quote from the article: "Is 'time so weird right now,' or have you lost all sense of progression in your life because you no longer have any routine-breaking events or holidays or changes of scenery to look forward to, only the repetitive cycle of the same bland emails to write and the same virus case count graphs to watch and the same harrowing scenes of police brutality to revisit day after day?"
This goes back to how I wrote in this post that World Mental Health Day should be observed every day. How are you really doing? What is the state of your inner life? What are you struggling with? What are you dealing with that no one knows about yet? What are you going to do next?
Saturday, October 10th is World Mental Health Day. It's nice that the importance of mental health is recognized. But our mental health is something that we should be thinking about every day.
What is mental health? In a very basic sense, it's how you're doing overall emotionally, physically, and socially.
What does that mean?
Emotionally: How do you manage your feelings? Change? Difficult times? How do you respond to your thoughts? Are you aware of how your thoughts affect your emotions? And vice versa?
Physically: How are you sleeping? Eating? Are you taking care of your body by exercising?
Socially: How is your social support system? Do you have strong friendships? Family relationships? Is social media helping or hurting you right now?
The World Health Organization gives us a formal definition of mental health:
"Mental health is defined as a state of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community."
That's something to aim for!
How are you doing? Is it time to take some small steps toward better mental health? Or maybe it's time for a bigger step like confiding in a friend about how you're doing? Doing some research on mental health and mental illness? Giving some thought to starting therapy?
Let's pause and think about that this Saturday, October 10th. But let's also keep it in mind every day as we pay attention to how we are doing.
I recently discovered the delightful, whimsical, and encouraging art of Jackie of chibird.com. I love her messages of taking good care of yourself, and treating yourself with gentleness and compassion.
This is yesterday's post about progress. Being productive and making progress can look so differently for each of us depending on so many things.
Are you struggling with feeling "productive" or making progress right now? What's your definition of "productive"? And does that definition fit with what's going on, the stage of life you're in, and the emotional weight that you're carrying?
We're starting Week Nine of the Shelter-in-Place order here in Santa Clara County. I hope you are staying well and taking very good care of yourself.
I wanted to check-in:
How are you holding up?
What are you finding easier? What is harder?
Who/what do you miss? Who/what do you NOT miss?
What grief are you holding?
What is NOT helping you right now?
What is saving you right now?
PS: If you're feeling anxious, depressed, lonely, or just need someone to talk to you can text HOME to 741741 and you'll be connected to a Crisis Counselor.
Linking to Episode #45 of Laura Tremaine’s 10 Things To Tell You podcast titled: Questions for the End of the Year.
It’s that time of year again. Holiday parties, gift-giving….and perhaps some time to reflect on 2019. Laura Tremaine provides ten questions to help you do just that.
These questions would make great journal prompts or conversation starters. Or maybe answer all ten questions for yourself and then share with a friend who has done the same.
Here’s to more reflection and connection in 2020!
Hi there, how's it going? It's the last Monthly Round-Up of 2018, and possibly my last Monthly Round-Up for awhile. This year, it's been fun to share articles and podcasts that have caught my eye/ear, but I'm thinking of changing things up in 2019 in a still-to-be-determined way. We are all changing, and what works for us in one season of life doesn't always work in the next. So stay tuned, and we'll see how this blog develops during 2019!
Today I'm sharing:
Article: What's All This About Journaling?
"Journaling may sound hokey to some. But it can be one of the most useful and cost-effective tools we have to forge a better, more emotionally and mentally healthy life."
Podcast: Online Dating: Can Science Find You Love?
"Paul's work has found that there's something about falling in love that the science just hasn’t been able to capture. For now, he says relationships are more like earthquakes than the weather, and that means we can’t really predict when they’re going to happen."
Article: What I Learned About Life At My 30th College Reunion
"Nearly all the alumni said they were embarrassed by their younger selves, particularly by how judgmental they used to be."
This holiday season can be a blur of activities and busyness with not so much time for reflection (unless we intentionally make room for some). And then the New Year is suddenly upon us.
To help you add a bit of reflection to this season, I've created a worksheet to help you slow down and take inventory of what happened this last year. I've also included some questions to help you get in touch with what you're wanting/hoping/dreaming about for 2019. I invite you to print it out and set aside some time to walk through it.
You can click here to download the worksheet.
Taking a look at this infographic can help us assess how we're doing in terms of caring for our mental health. Which of these are you doing well with? Which ones could use some more attention?
How was August for you? Are you ready to head into the fall?
I've read some great articles this month. Here they are:
This Woman Quit Dating Apps and Decided to Meet Men IRL, and It Changed Everything
"The more comfortable I became talking to everyone, the more confidence I gained talking to men. I began living openly, boldly, and unapologetically."
How To Make Friends, According to Science
"A recent study out of the University of Kansas found that it takes about 50 hours of socializing to go from acquaintance to casual friend, an additional 40 hours to become a “real” friend, and a total of 200 hours to become a close friend."
The New, Supremely Satisfying Way I End My Day.
"What helps me to keep on keepin' on is to truly give myself credit for the things I get done each day—both personally and professionally. And to that end, I've developed an auspicious habit: I write a to-do list in reverse at the end of the day."
I’m Elaine Gee-Wong and I'm a therapist with a private practice in Santa Clara, CA.
Any information or advice on this website is for informational purposes only, and should not take the place of information or care provided to you by your physicians, medical, or mental health care professionals.